Unholy

Homosexuality has been a hot topic for plenty of years. As a gay teenager in 2019, it is challenging to juggle stereotypes, opinions, expectations, and ignorance. In our heavily stereotypical and opinionated society, it’s hard to escape stereotypes, especially when gay. People will assume that you are ultra-effeminate, flamboyant, promiscuous, loud, annoying, extra, unholy, or gross/dirty.

 

 

Though not everyone believes these things, I have experienced these assumptions as a gay teenager. The truth is that any of the traits used to describe (or degrade) gay people could be used against anyone, no matter their gender or sexual identity. In my life, I have seen many races, genders, and sexualities live their best and most colorful, extra, beautiful life, and I have seen the same groups live out more reserved and traditionally masculine lives. At the end of the day, all these stereotypes do is shove people into boxes that they may not want to be in, which can make being open about their sexuality, which is nothing to be ashamed of, even more challenging.  

 

For the people who have never had a genuine personal connection with a gay person, it may be hard to grasp the complexities of every single homosexual, because we are not stereotypes. We are unique individuals with hopes, dreams, and ideas, just like our heterosexual counterparts. As a society, we are not programmed to think deeper about the uniqueness and differences of every single person. Stereotypes against gay people are no different than stereotypes against other minority groups and can perpetuate the assumption that mass bullying is acceptable.

 

Similarly, the discriminatory connotations towards females that devalue women or unjustly suggest they’re the weaker sex, have gone on long enough. I believe misogyny is one of the many roots of homophobia. Ignorance can lead some to believe that because I feel love for another male that I am submissive and weak and deserve misogynistic treatment or contempt.

 

As a 15-year-old in Louisiana, it is literally illegal for me to engage in sexual activity. As a gay person, I’m labeled “unholy” and “gross” and “promiscuous” for sexual behavior I’m not even engaged in, simply because I may potentially like another boy, while other teenage boys who are sexually active – and are straight – are deemed quite normal. Most won’t think twice about it, and brush it aside with statements like, “Boys will be boys.”

 

At the end of the day, it leaves me wondering why who my heart chooses has anything to do with my quality as a person.

 


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Comments: 10
  • #1

    Kari Hankins (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 14:17)

    Jonah, I'm so incredibly proud of you and thankful that I have had the privilege of getting to know you! Great job!

  • #2

    Skyla st. Germain (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 17:30)

    So proud and I couldn’t agree more. I miss you!

  • #3

    Cary Tassin (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 17:44)

    Ever wonder why, when people are asked to name the qualities of a good friend or person of exemplary character, “attracted to the opposite sex” is never one of the qualities mentioned? That’s because it doesn’t matter! I applaud your wisdom beyond your years as well as the courage to use your voice, Jonah. Nice job.

  • #4

    Oran Parker (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 17:57)

    My son, whom I adore and love so much, just made me even prouder of him by sharing his unhidden self through a blog post on Truth, Facts & Lies. He risks much by stepping fully into the sun, and it is that same sun that warms all beings without regard for race, nation, gender, culture, history, or social status. He is so much braver, caring, compassionate, thoughtful, and kind-hearted than I was at 15 years old, and his heart has enough light to illuminate mine when I am weary. I would love to take credit for his beautiful spirit, but it is not mine to credit; it's the Creator's, the Builder's, the Potter who made this son. I hope when I grow up that I'm half the man he is. I have come to believe that he is possibly a great bodhisattva making the rounds, on his way to the other shore awakening and caring for forgotten beings along the way. I am humbled to have him in my care, though I fail so often in my role as steward. Dear, Jonah Parker, I love you as far and free as the clear blue sky.
    - - - - - - -
    "May I be a protector for those without one, a guide for all travelers on the way.
    May I be an island for those that seek one, and a lamp for those desiring light.
    May I be a bridge, a boat, and a ship for all who wish to cross the water." ⚓️

    -Shantideva, The Bodhisattvas Way of Life

  • #5

    a (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 19:43)

    Love this.

  • #6

    Jackie Bourque (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 19:52)

    Jonah, I don’t think you realize how many lives you may potentially save with this blog. You are a world changer. Go out and change this world! My 15 year old son is straight, but he was raised to know that it was absolutely ok if he were not. He could care less what orientation, gender, race, or social class you belong to, if you’re real and kind, you’ve got a friend for life. � You both give me so much for the future. ❤️

  • #7

    Michelle Parker (Tuesday, 12 February 2019)

    An article written by one of the most thoughtful, courageous, and beautiful people I know. I’m so proud of you, Jonah. #bethechange

  • #8

    Janice Little (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 21:21)

    BE STILL MY HEART.. I'm proud of who you've always been.. from kindergarten to now, you've always been the brightest star in the sky. We love you Jonah.. Thank you for being brave and kind.

  • #9

    Matt Young (Tuesday, 12 February 2019 22:50)

    Noah, your generation gives me hope. I admire your courage, strength, compassion and empathy! What a great message and challenge—all in one.

  • #10

    Kayla Rigney (Wednesday, 13 February 2019 09:00)

    Brilliant words by an enlightened young man. Clearly, you are meant to be a leader in this world... :)