Homosexuality has been a hot topic for plenty of years. As a gay teenager in 2019, it is challenging to juggle stereotypes, opinions, expectations, and ignorance. In our heavily stereotypical and opinionated society, it’s hard to escape stereotypes, especially when gay. People will assume that you are ultra-effeminate, flamboyant, promiscuous, loud, annoying, extra, unholy, or gross/dirty.
Though not everyone believes these things, I have experienced these assumptions as a gay teenager. The truth is that any of the traits used to describe (or degrade) gay people could be used against anyone, no matter their gender or sexual identity. In my life, I have seen many races, genders, and sexualities live their best and most colorful, extra, beautiful life, and I have seen the same groups live out more reserved and traditionally masculine lives. At the end of the day, all these stereotypes do is shove people into boxes that they may not want to be in, which can make being open about their sexuality, which is nothing to be ashamed of, even more challenging.
For the people who have never had a genuine personal connection with a gay person, it may be hard to grasp the complexities of every single homosexual, because we are not stereotypes. We are unique individuals with hopes, dreams, and ideas, just like our heterosexual counterparts. As a society, we are not programmed to think deeper about the uniqueness and differences of every single person. Stereotypes against gay people are no different than stereotypes against other minority groups and can perpetuate the assumption that mass bullying is acceptable.
Similarly, the discriminatory connotations towards females that devalue women or unjustly suggest they’re the weaker sex, have gone on long enough. I believe misogyny is one of the many roots of homophobia. Ignorance can lead some to believe that because I feel love for another male that I am submissive and weak and deserve misogynistic treatment or contempt.
As a 15-year-old in Louisiana, it is literally illegal for me to engage in sexual activity. As a gay person, I’m labeled “unholy” and “gross” and “promiscuous” for sexual behavior I’m not even engaged in, simply because I may potentially like another boy, while other teenage boys who are sexually active – and are straight – are deemed quite normal. Most won’t think twice about it, and brush it aside with statements like, “Boys will be boys.”
At the end of the day, it leaves me wondering why who my heart chooses has anything to do with my quality as a person.
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